How would you describe your management style? What do you think makes you a good leader, and in what areas would you to improve?
I became a Certified Emotional Intelligent Leader and Facilitator two years ago and wish I had that knowledge sooner. What always makes a good leader is the ability to understand the art of asking questions. Having awareness around intentions vs. action and coming from a place of carefront vs. confront! My favorite quote is, “People don’t do things to you, they do things for themselves.” Ponder that one for a while and you will come from a very different place as a leader when you don’t take it personally and ask the right questions. Improvement for me is based on knowing how to use the skills I have learned in Emotional Intelligence and stay in alignment to them every single day.
How do you set goals for yourself? For example, do you prefer more small accomplishable goals or fewer large goals? How do you hold yourself accountable?
I always loved the analogy of the big rocks vs. the small rocks in the jar, and if you don’t place the big rocks in first the small ones can take up all your space in the jar and you don’t get to your big goals. So I create my goal list with big rocks and small rocks. I remind myself that any action forward with my big rocks is one step closer to accomplishing them—they do not happen overnight and require planned attention. I then hold myself accountable to people, projects and processes—it is a masterful juggling act and flexibility is essential as one or all three will alter your view daily!
Throughout your professional history, what’s the best lesson you’ve learned after making a mistake?
Not to beat myself up for making mistakes or not doing all that I had planned to accomplish in a day, a week, a month and a year. I still don’t understand HOW to balance my life but I do understand WHY it is important and I will continue to strive to find balance daily.
From whom or what do you draw your strength, courage, vision?
My parents—my father is loyal, hardworking and tough—and yet as I grow older I am amazed at the simple beauty of his words and wisdom he expresses to me. My mother, whose amazing role of caring for the family all her life, has really found this courageous place to ask for what she wants and know she deserves it! They continue to provide for me still in so many ways, (like watching my dog when I travel) and I am truly inspired by them.